Unless someone had deleted it, Syd, just read the thread entitled sometime like "first to post gets 300-2000 hits a day". But, as it has been deleted-- and don't worry, Syd, I'll not mention who beyond all doubt deleted it, Syd-- I'll sum it up here:
Syd apparently scrapped her website, which used a CJB redirecting URL. Her offer was to give the first person to reply to her thread this URL, which got in the neighborhood of 300-2000 hits per day. Phroz replied first and she gave it to him. All was well, the agreed upon transfer was made, the case was settled. Some time later it was brought to Syd's attention that she could had made a lot of money off a URL getting 300-2000 hits per day with blind links. She wanted it back. Phroz, rightfully, said no, that is was his now to do as he liked with it and he'd not return it. Syd got all weepy, claiming that it was Christmas and Phroz had taken advantage of her and she needed that money for college and that he should give it back right away. Some agreed with her, but most didn't. Her fault, I and others said, the URL was given outright to Phroz on her terms, nothing ill was said or done in the process. It was Phroz's now and if he had any sense about him he'd keep it until the traffic dropped off. She made her bed and now she would have to lie in it, it would be a lesson to her to be more careful in the future. This didn't settled on someone too well, 't would seem, and the thread was deleted by persons unknown, wasn't it, Syd?
That was "that" issue, and if Syd would rather leave than face "that", well, best she go ahead. She is wrong on one count, though. She believes that no one cares about her, in that is her error. If she was looking for coddling, she found none, but she did find care. Those that laid the blame at her feet, all those I read at least, told her that, while this was a strike against her, she should learn from it and be made stronger by it and not make the same mistake again. That is care, harsh, but more valuable than any blind consolment she might had wished to hear.
I'm sure many didn't want this posted, seems even you said later it would've been better had you never brought it up, but it needed to be said. It won't "make things worse", as Cheatpark suggested it would, if anything bringing it out will offer a chance of closure. You can't simply strike a hurtful event from your memory, run from your problems, and hope for the best. It will never end like that, it will always chase you. It must be talked openly.
That, I think, is the problem as of late on this forum. I remember when arguments would rage for page after page here, but all would eventually wind themselves up and the community righted again of its own accord. That doesn't happen much, now. I don't know whether it's the people or the board itself, but everything seems to now just go stagnat. The proverbial can of worms will be opened, but it's seldom if ever sealed again, it's just pushed aside and wipped from memory-- only it isn't wipped from meomory, only repressed. There's a tension on this board that wasn't ever here before. There are the pleasent threads-- most of them are, actually-- lighthearted and giggly on the surface, but under them it's all black. You know the feeling you get, when you sense something wrong but you can't quite put your fingure on what it is? Everywhere here I get that feeling. From the parting words of many here who have left, I tend to think others feel this as well. They all seem to speak of the atmosphere being different, being changed from how it was before, how the people are different, how the boards are different. None have put to words how they have changed or what makes them different, but they agree that it has and is.
Someone mentioned how it is that those who leave have an odd tendency to return a few months later. That's not surprising, really. My theory, and it is just a theory, is that this deep-seated, wordless tension wells up in a person until it reaches the breaking point and they can no longer pretend that they don't feel it and they can repress no more. They leave, usually without ill words for they themseleves are not certain what made them want to flee, and they stay away until sufficent time has passed to forget what troubled them-- to cleanse themselves, so to speak. And they return, refreshed, as though nothing has happened. I do not recall, but afterwards I don't believe anyone who has returned from absense has explained why they left or why they came back, outside of jest. That follows perfectly, for if I am right they would not had known when leaving why they left because they could not express in words their heavy, dark feelings, and they would have known even less when returning what made them leave because for what was once wordless dread now ceases to exists at all for them. They returned because nothing held them back any longer, and nothing can't be described when asked "why did you come back?"
While good times are spent here in this most pleasent community by myself and I think most everyone, this is an ill place-- though I don't prentend to know what makes it ill. Silencing troubles certainly will not help, whatever the root cause may be, however.